Identity Crisis

Well ‘crisis’ might be making too much of a fuss. I am not in crisis. But I am having to rethink my identity. So far in my adult life I have been the big guy who keeps going on a diet and then puts all the weight back on, plus a bit more. I put on a big show of being happy and cheerful but a lot of the time I am not content inside. I know many people who share this identity with me. It is not a happy place.


Hot Tub

Naomi says we have to wear swimming costumes in the Hottub - I don't know why.

The words that are in everyday use are also not pretty. Fat, Overweight, Obese, Morbidly Obese, Podgy, Plump, Roly-Poly, Lardy, Corpulent, Elephantine, Rotund, Whale-Like and so on.

It is also not an identity I am proud of. I am considering what my new identity should be now I have lost some of my excess weight. I am not ready to be a thin person. Who wants to be skinny? Hands up! Who are you? No, I didn’t think so.

The other thing that is happening which I am not proud of at all is that I have started noticing other overweight people and judging them. I keep nodding towards people and saying to Naomi ‘They need to join Slimming World’. What am I like? I’m looking for a cure for this bad attitude but as my reaction is a spontaneous one that is going to take a bit of working on.

For myself, I need to feel and find who I am now. I just want to be a normal weight and live my life.

Brainstorming Time For New Identity Names

Normal person – No!

Slimming Worlder – No!

Trim – No!

Slender – No!

Sylph – No!

Svelte – No! (I got called this by Candice in the Facebook group last week – You are very kind but I’m not sure it suits me).

Willowy – No!

Lissom – No! Dangerous ground I think.

Lithe – No!

Gracile – No!

Thinner – Getting Closer.

OK – I’ve Got It!

It is so brilliant you will not believe it. But I will not tell you until the end of the blog. Please do not cheat and look to the bottom of the page…

OK, I know that some of you did look at the bottom of the page which is very bad and disobedient, but I forgive you.

At the end of the day my aim is to live a long and healthy life. I don’t want to carry all the weight I used to carry. I want to buy clothes that I choose off a rack because I like them and they suit me. Not because that’s all they’ve got in my size.

What am I saying? I’m saying I want to have a fun life full of energy and enjoyment. The freedom to do what I want because I chose to do it. I don’t want people to see me and judge me. I don’t want them to talk about me behind my back about my dieting and my problem with food.

This Is What I Want…

I do not want to be defined by my weight!

That is my new identity.

Anything that does not include my size in it. That will do for me.

Published by Ken Jones

This website is all about my Slimming World diet. I started the diet in February 2016. I kept a detailed diary of what happened in my first year. This has now been published as a book called 'The World Of Slimming'

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  1. Love it that you do the same when you see people that could do with slimming world as I do this too.x

  2. You are one in a million! And yes, I also would love to go up to unhappy looking people and tell them about SW!! ? Eve X

  3. At least you honest about who you are. Contentment starts from deep within knowing who you are, is first before everyone else and who they think you are! People will always judge, being a fatty or a skinny won’t change that-unfortunately! But being the best you you can be changes everything!True Identity comes from knowing who you are- in Him

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